WARNING: This story discusses sexual abuse and suicide which some readers/viewers may find distressing
Ken Clearwater’s mother knew something was up with her son.
It was 1965 in the Christchurch suburb of Papanui. The phone rang and it was Ken’s school headmaster. He too was worried. There was anger that had not been there before in the then 12-year-old. She went down to the police station and asked them to follow her son.
In this two-part series, Ken shares his story of surviving childhood rape and the anger which threatened to consume his life. He has gone on to help thousands of men, including George Russell who 18 months ago sought help from Ken after suffering in silence over his abuse as an 11-year-old from a priest. Over the next year, thousands of stories are expected to emerge in New Zealand. ‘It’s going to be the biggest thing that hit this country,’ he says.
In December, Ken received a Civic Award from Mayor Lianne Dalziel.
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